Thursday, August 2, 2012

DAY TWENTY ONE - Semper Paratus


Seeing as how our regular ride, Petra, was still gone to Germany, I decided to give getting to church the big push and walk. It’s probably between a 30-40 min stretch. Besides I now had Google maps to lite my way! As it was a nice brisk morning, and I don’t like to be cold, I dressed in my wintriest skirt, sweater and jacket, and had on my feet what I like to call my “sweet spirit” walking shoes -- good as gold, perfectly adequate, but not very exciting!. I told Sandra as I left that I thought I must look like a Jehovah’s Witness missionary, what with my appearance, and “scripture bag” and all.

Drat! No kidding, I had walked no further than a couple feet when a car pulled up and I heard, “Debbie, you wanna ride?” Of course, I was happy to be a known entity, for one, and secondly to save myself the potential of becoming lost on my first try of getting to church without help. It was Nicole Gabbitas and Eva (pronounced Ava) and Josiah. You can guess what I told Josiah, and reminded him of the heritage he received in being named after that surprisingly-for-his-time righteous biblical king. Their other kids are Lydia and Eli(as). Can’t begin to describe how nice their family is, and inviting, almost like you’ve know them before. (A funny side note is Mandy had told me before coming, that, to her, they were the most American family in the ward. When I shared that thought with Nicole, she got this dubious look on her face and said, well, I’m not sure if that’s a compliment or not. I asked her what she meant by that, as I had intuited in my various interactions with others some “not so favorable” connotations associated with being American. She said well, honestly, people love ‘em or they hate ‘em. {Well, that’s kind of sad, huh?! And I guess I didn’t help any with my shenanigans the week before.} Another widely held supposition is that ALL Americans are rich – which kind of makes sense if you think that the ONLY Americans they come across are the ones who have the resources TO travel abroad.)

Behaved myself whilst at church, you’ll be happy to hear. (Gotta be a good example of what it means to be an American -‘cause I’m proud to be an American, lalala, lalala, lalala!) We started off with a “joint activity” for Priesthood/RS meetings. The mother of our instructor, the bishop, sat down beside me and stayed, and made me feel welcome through both RS and SS. (Nicole is the YW president, so that’s why we weren’t together, in case you were wondering, though this is the second week I have sat by their family during sacrament meeting. Yes, Mandy’s right – whether they like it or not – they do FEEL American to us Americans!) Sue’s (Spencer) daughter is the Gospel Doctrine teacher. Her husband had been the bishop back in his day in this ward, while one of their sons is a stake president where he lives, and the other is a high counselor. What a family! Just consider the incredible repercussions of being brought up in a righteous home – as well as the alternative. (By the way Bro and Sis Spencer are the tender parents of 4 children and 12 grandchildren. One of my favorite things is that when I asked Sue how she and Paul had met she said it was at the beach, at Cleethorpes. She was there with friends, and so was he; they had eyes only for each other, got acquainted. She was instrumental in his eventually joining the church, and the story goes on and on, as they say.)

The bishop’s message centered around the concept of staying strong through affliction. Realizing these times will come, how can we best prepare? – a subject each one of us will need sooner or later. He showed several Mormon Messages as examples -- very effective. (One called Flecks of Gold stars my friend, Dallin Bayless, as a prospector who has a lesson to learn, pg. 3 of MM; the other by Elder Holland is also excellent, pg 9, called Good Things to Come. Take a look at Mormon Messages on the church’s website when yoy have a minute. So many great topics to choose from; excellent for family home evenings, etc. You are guaranteed to find something there your family will benefit from and enjoy. A funny adage the bishop said he heard recently in a training meeting: if you want something to be hidden or lost, put it in a church handbook! Related as he explained how our home teachers would be bringing around a small pamphlet called Family. He entreated fathers, especially, to show affection to their wives and children. He admonished everyone to focus on the things that matter most, to never let a problem to be solved be more important than a person to be loved. You’ve probably heard that one before and it’s a good one!

I love that in Sunday School when we were reading in Alma chp 32 about developing one’s faith, when the verses with the word pluck were read aloud (40 & 42), it was “plook.” (Oh, British diction. How I love it!) One tidbit shared was this little gem: Do I have always to give, said my peevish and selfish self? Oh, no, said the angel, only just keep giving till the Lord stops giving to you.

One of the sacrament speakers was the Primary president. A mother of five (she spoke of each one, and then teasingly included her husband in the count) she admitted that though she could definitely say she HAS a lot of experience teaching children, she cannot say affirmatively that she knows HOW to teach children. (Similarly to RS, the theme centered on families.) Other thoughts: *There are two important things you can provide children – roots and wings.*  *Children can ask questions that can stun a wise man.*  *That because children see things so simply and literally, the best way to teach them is simply and clearly. If you teach them the answers to the three questions, Where did I come from? Why am I here? And Where am I going? (aka The Plan of Salvation), they will be able to cope with any and everything that life throws at them. That promise is so simple, clear and direct that I can’t help but find it profound.

Got a ride home from very kind Brother Taylor, who was excited to call me Sister T. He is a very jokey man and then took it further by asking if I minded if he called you, Debs?! (Now this is a funny thing: as some of you may know, I have always disliked the nickname, Deb -- IMMENSELY -- but somehow there is something about being around here that has taken the vitriol right out of it for me. {Sorry, Erin, your prick has lost its thrust!] I have met so many Debbie’s and they are all so nice, and all of us, according to my mom can chalk it up to the wildly popular and beloved -- by both men AND women -- movie actress, Debbie Reynolds, who was a great favorite about the time we all decided to be born! {Or rather,  I should say, our parents decided . . .} “Deb” is starting to feel kinda chummy, somehow. So I said, “Yes, Brother T, you, and only you, have my permission to call me Debs -- any time you like!”)

After a nice lunch of boiled cabbage, potatoes, carrots and some chicken pieces with sauce kindly prepared by Sandra for me and another guest, one of the dotters from church --  while they went visiting, I headed off to People’s Park for the Sunday Picnic in the Park celebration. There was again a large crowd of participants and family members of every age. There were performers (what we would almost think of as old-fashioned – a clown acrobat, storytellers, a juggler), as well as live old-time music coming from the bandstand. There were also craft and food booths like we have at our Farmer’s Market back home. I really liked what one girl had done with felting. It was a pattern of impressionistic pink roses on a sky blue field with streaks of gold running length-wise. It was so intriguing to my eyes. She gave me her contact information and said she would be glad to make up something similar for me if I liked. I was thinking I could hang it by a delicate cord on the wall like a small tapestry or something.

An enlivening time was had by all. Finally saw a sqeerrel, one of those evasive creatures I’ve been hearing so much about. I always like to take in the local color – although local color around here (wild hair dyes, extensive tattoos on practically everyone over the age of 16) sometimes begins to get to me, and as much as it is novel and exciting, after a while it begins to feel like degradation, and then I just want to escape from it.

So onto a lighter note, let me tell you about People’s Park, where today’s festivities took place. I learned of the park from Richard before I left to come here, as he knew that I loved walking and being out of doors. People’s Park – and I suppose there are People Parks all over the UK  --  first came into existence back in the days of old Queen Victoria, when it was determined that Grimsby needed a central public park, on land donated by wealthy Edward Heneage, a local MP (member of parliament). After a lengthy competition, the design, Semper Paratus, was awarded to one William Barron, for its “strong axis and curvilinear paths”. It was opened in 1883 by the Duke and Duchess of Connaught and sports a lovely large pond (or lake if you’re from the western half of the United State) with water fowl and fountains, a children’s play area, including many floral gardens, paths and extensive lawns. (Sorry, I found nothing to tell its size -- perhaps similar to Liberty Park in SLC.) Originally the park had two ornate iron entrances that lead into the park from the surrounding residences. Sadly these massive structures were removed in the 40s to support the war effort, (in other words, they were torn down to become scrap metal -- sort of like turning an old cow over to the glue factory). In 1900, in celebration of the life of Queen Victoria who was turning 80 that year, an observatory, not to be confused with the meteorological kind, was built. 15 meters high (darned if I can tell you how tall that is!), it was designed with 80 steps leading to a view balcony, to commemorate each year of the Queen’s life (very close to the number of grandchildren and great-grandchildren offspring she and Bertie had. Whoa!). The park has gone through many revisions, each one making it more and more beautiful -- though I’m mournful for being deprived of those majestic gates to the horrific violence that shook the whole world those many years ago.


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  1- Olympic Google doodle
  2- Jehovah’s best
  3- contraband (that earned me untold grief)
  4- ornate splendor
  5- the merry makers
  6- taller than tall – an interesting character at the Sunday fling - and yes, as tall as he appears to
      be - turned out to be the next performer